Help!

Hello MDers,

Compliments of the season pals. A friend asked me a question but I'd require your inputs to help respond appropriately.

He's out of job and for sometime now, the wife had become the breadwinner so to speak and this guy doesn't feel comfortable about it. From his response to few of my questions, he isn't just folding his arms but his efforts all along to regain his 'rightful' position by getting a new job have been mere struggles as he's been out of luck.

NOW, he asks if he should stop seeking financial support from the wife as he fears her continuing to finance the family needs might put her in a domineering position and may lead to chaos in marriage.

My initial response was for him to allow sleeping dogs lie and continue to 'enjoy' the wife's support until he recovers his lost job. After all, she's his helpmate.

Dear MDers, how do you see the situation and what's your take?

At this time, wise up!

Friends,
Just want to say a few words especially at this time of what seems to be a rat race among the people - everyone running from pillar to post, trying everything possible to 'meet up' so as to outshine others or belong to a certain class.

At this time, inasmuch as it's appealing and laudable for one to remember his or roots and do regular visits, we need to understand that it ought not be done compulsorily. No one is on your neck to travel and even when you have made every legitimate effort to realize that dream but it fails.

At this time, hold on a while and remember that there are many other things to celebrate... And when the time comes, you'll be well disposed to take them up without stress. It's never a do or die affair neither are you competing with anyone.

At this time, people will make all manner of unfriendly utterances to deride you for 'not being so keen in going home' but remember, you know yourself better than they do. You also understand your situation better. If you succumb to their pressure, January is waiting around the corner and remember, it pounces on you with a hard bang.

So at this time, do yourself some good by not wearing yourself out in a bid to 'meet up'. Many had tried such detestable shortcuts to 'meeting up' but rather found themselves meeting with other criminals in the dark rooms while the most unfortunate ones met their lifeless bodies down there.

At this time dear MDers, we need to wise up and not become the scapegoat.

Please add your comments and air your opinions. Share the link to this article so that non-MDers could read and equally be guided.

At this time, wise up!

Beware! 'Lions' on the prowl!

They've been around though - but quite seldomly. Now, they're out in full force for 'business', against all odds.

Ritualists are on the prowl ... going after unsuspecting persons especially the female folks. And in a bid by the later to 'protect' themselves from the so-called Yahoo Boys, they have started to patronize native doctors (which I don't advise) according to reports. These marauders go for key vital organs from their victims' lifeless bodies.

As earlier mentioned, these have been happening but in a low-key but the sudden resurgence of these heinous activities especially as the *mber months and the elections drew closer, shows the extent people with probably dead consciences could go just to acquire power or riches without considering how awful and wicked their deeds are.

As I advise us to remain watchful and vigilant, I wish to state categorically that no amount of power or riches can equate human life. Whoever that is being fascinated by such ill affluence or influence ought to have a rethink as there's no life in it.

Why are we Africans avaricious?

I may have definitely stepped on toes with this title thereby inviting immeasurable criticisms and ridicules especially from those who feel they're more African than I. But I prefer to let it out - the Truth - and brace up for the imminent darts than keeping quiet as if nothing happened.

This is Yuletide. The time of the year when most Africans especially my fellow Nigerians have to spend through their noses, most times x3 of what was the usual cost of items pre-Yuletide. All in the name of season, every single item out there at the stall had automatically become a hotcake. Sellers even don't have shame anymore as they boldly declare that the season was the reason for the price hikes. Yet, some of these 'business people' had made enough savings from January to somewhere around September waiting for the annual discounted sales in Europe and other continents who in the real spirit of the season, a season of sharing, of brotherly and sisterly love, would give as low as 75% discount. They intend everyone to afford at least an item to mark the season. But our 'smart' brethren have other plans. What the heck is the welfare of others to them when a rare opportunity to amass more money has presented itself? And for other traders who are not privy to the discounted foreign sales, they plan to 'break even' and wouldn't tolerate any hindrances on their ways. So the items for sale had to be shouldered with that responsibility which eventually happens during the Yuletide.

I don't say people ought not make profits after sales. I am not against resourcefulness. But I am against profiteering. I am against avarice. I am against covetousness. I am against falling to frivolous lifestyles. There is a reason for the season and until we understand that reason - the reason which began with the coming of Christ as a child - we may continue to lose sight of the true message and by extension, miss the substance while having our eyes set on frivolities.