Awesomeness of Genuine Efforts!

A couple of years ago, I found myself in a really quagmire, a cash-strapped situation I put myself into. I just got enrolled for a course and because of my willingness to do the program at all costs, I gave all that I had while waiting endlessly for payments from my clients. At some point when my clients were not responding, I was tempted to begin having some self-guilt asking why I had to spend all that I had for a course that'd take months to complete. I wondered how I was going to survive as the adamant attitude of my clients made matters even worse.

Though physically I looked haggard and weak due to hunger as well as a bit confused, inwardly I was satisfied. If I had not made that  payment when I did, I may not have enrolled for the program eventually and would have been frivolous in my spending.
I knew I was taking a risk but at the same time, shrewd.
I knew I invested wisely and even though the seemingly 'foolish' act did not yield immediate results, it will be worth waiting for.

Today, I can declare that whatever progress I have so far achieved between that period and now is as a result of that singular 'drastic' step. Aside the acquired career-based skills, that rugged approach had thought me the lessons that have helped me view challenges irrespective of size, as momentary as every other thing in life and do not defy overcoming.

Never neglect making some really 'genuine' efforts.

Rise up and work!

It's a new day folks. We're grateful to the Almighty God for this grace. What's next? We shouldn't allow this 24-hour opportunity - which can never return once gone - to pass us bye.

My candid advice: Rise up and WORK!

There's always something for everyone to do to put food on the table. Identify that opportunity no matter how little it may seem.
Remember, a little drops of water makes a mighty ocean.
That so-called 'little' opportunity you feel is demeaning and therefore tend to overlook or belittle could be the platform you need to rise - your stepping stone to success.

Accept it and move forward!


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Nothing good comes easy!

These days,  many people want to always have their ways in getting whatever they wish for at the very time and way they want it. There's no problem with such a dream but making it real raises the question. And if care is not taken, doing it 'forcefully' always ends badly.
Life isn't like that. Life isn't a bed of roses. In reality, failures test your patience and maturity. It tests your enterprising spirit. You may have several failures through rejections, failed appointments, non-cooperating partners, working with team members who have contrasting views to your dreams and so on. Being human, the urge to discontinue the pursuit of that dream could set in and if such thoughts are condoned, then REAL failure is imminent.

My take: Life has thought me so many lessons. One of them tells me that what we feel are failures aren't so but rather springboards to success and achieving our dreams. Nothing good comes easy! Lessons are learned through failed proposals, appointments, job searches, relationships, engagements, events... just name it. We typically expect our endeavors to turn out right but most times they don't. Don't relent. Calm down. Go back to the 'drawing board'. Analyze your previous approaches. Identify those things that weren't done properly. Note down lessons learned. Make adjustments based on the learned lessons and try again. As long as the enterprise is worthwhile,  keep trying until you succeed. That's the only way you can tell the story.
Remember, if you had succeeded in your first attempt, you would definitely have NO story to tell. 

Say "No" to Pride, Showboating!

A lot has been trending in the past couple of hours, #10 year challenge,  Ogboru being addressed as a presidential candidate by the incumbent president, among others. That which caught my attention and those of many both locally and internationally is the photo of unarguably the richest man in the world, Bill Gates as he 'queued up' at a local eatery to grab some snacks.

Attitude speaks volumes and inadvertently tells who you are. Mr Gates obviously didn't see any big deal taking turns, after all 'he's no different' from anyone else there so why should one expect him to be treated differently. His smiles showed no worries - he was going to wait for his time. And he eventually did.

While reading the article, my attention quickly flashed back to my experience at a bank some days back. The queue wasn't terrible anyway but there were still those who couldn't sacrifice a couple of minutes to be attended to. As for them, they're in more haste than others - or rather - others who patiently waited for their turns got no other businesses for the rest of the day.
My first experience that afternoon was a man about in his sixties jumping the queue in the name of saying "Hello" to one of the CS staff but ended up getting served before others.
More annoying was a yougy lad, a military cadet I suppose who in his uniform, walked in and without any courtesy, went straight to the counter and that was it. I had endured the first due to the man's age but for this young officer who ought to be an example - good example - especially while in that uniform, it was an unpardonable sin. Those who wanted to protest became afraid of a possible manhandling should they grumble.

Showboating isn't new in this part of the world and we have lived with it for ages. But I see it as a 'suffering and smiling' scenario. Yes, there could be genuine reasons especially in emergency situations when one may not be able to wait but a simple polite and humble asking would eventually pave way for such a person. Jumping queues shows lack of respect for other users of especially public facilities and such attitude stems from pride and arrogance which definitely shouldn't be applauded. Pride manifests in many other ways. So just be your 'simple self' and life tastes better.

Mr Gates examplary lifestyle has thought us that the higher we get in life, the humbler we ought to be. This might be taken as a 'hard teaching' by some but that's all about life's principles. No shortcuts, no circumventing, no bypass - just do the right thing and obey the golden rule. No one is 'mightier' than the rest.



The gist, Bill Gates queuing up for snacks was first mentioned in: https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/8224211/bill-gates-microsoft-wait-line-fast-food-dicks-drivein-buy-burger/amp/

Say "No" to drug abuse!

Dear MDers,

This is only a reminder to keep you or yours away from banned substances.

This illicit practice has turned out to be a thorn in the flesh for so many institutions and even nations to grapple with.
I get befuddled whenever I try to find out the reason why people indulge in such dastardly act but after some research, I've come to the conclusion that those who do so are nothing but cowardly. They intend to take up a challenge (in most cases with bad intentions) but failing to muster the courage to tread those dark and forbidden paths, they opt for 'enablers' - 'forcing' their flesh to get over the subtle warning by their consciences. A few others who do so while embarking on 'genuine' projects may have failed to think out of the box to get reasonable and lasting solutions.
Cowards are prone to chickening out easily and only depend on external stimulants. They tend to forget that no such solutions exist and even if it does is shortlived. We ought to brace up and tackle every challenge as they come. The earlier we admit the continual existence of challenges, the better for us as we explore dignifying ways of sorting them out. The truth is, anyone who feels a challenge has been put to rest through unacceptable means like resorting to illicit drugs and the likes would be disappointed to realize that aside the challenges getting even out of control, more health, psychological and other forms of troubles lurk around.

The POINT: Drug abuse is dangerous and ought to be avoided. Parents, teachers, guardians, siblings, relatives, governments at all levels and the general public MUST strive to rid our societies of such menace.

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Say "No" to materialism! - A lesson from Abraham Lincoln

Dear folks, as we continue with the "Say 'No'" series, I wish to remind us that the insatiable desire for mundane things and unending cravings for personal belongings against all odds contribute to the ills of the society. Most of us throw caution to the winds as long as they get what they go for thereby trampling upon the fundamental human rights of other people. Many parents and guardians give flimsy reasons of "being too busy with work" that they have little or no time to do the fundamental things - paying adequate attention to the lifestyle of their children and wards.

Growing up, I had come across the popular letter Abraham Lincoln wrote to his son's teacher. For all we may have known about this man, it'll suffice to say he was a very busy person but he still found a way of playing that FATHERLY ROLE to his son. His busy schedules never interfered with his parenting responsibilities especially the point where he praised hardwork over earnings through crooked means.

And so while assisting 'my own son' with his school project, I found the letter at www.learningispassion.com and decided to bring it up here as a reminder that we all - irrespective of status - have got some roles to play in mentoring our subjects and surbodinates into doing "the right things" that would contribute in healing our world of societal vile.

Highlighted below are the written words of Abraham Lincoln to his son's teacher.
Read it and please share this article.


"My son starts school today. It is all going to be strange and new to him for a while and I wish you would treat him gently. It is an adventure that might take him across continents. All adventures that probably include wars, tragedy and sorrow. To live this life will require faith, love and courage.
So dear Teacher, will you please take him by his hand and teach him things he will have to know, teaching him – but gently, if you can, Teach him that for every enemy, there is a friend. He will have to know that all men are not just, that all men are not true. But teach him also that for every scoundrel there is a hero, that for every crooked politician, there is a dedicated leader.
Teach him if you can that 10 centsearned is of far more value than a dollar found. In school, teacher, it is far more honorable to fail than to cheat. Teach him to learn how to gracefully lose, and enjoy winning when he does win.
Teach him to be gentle with people, tough with tough people. Steer him away from envyif you can and teach him the secret of quiet laughter. Teach him if you can – how to laugh when he is sad, teach him there is no shame in tears. Teach him there can be glory in failure and despair in success. Teach him to scoff at cynics.
Teach him if you can the wonders of books, but also give time to ponder the extreme mystery of birds in the sky, bees in the sun and flowers on a green hill. Teach him to have faith in his own ideas, even if every one tell him they are wrong.
Try to give my son the strength not to follow the crowd when everyone else is doing it. Teach him to listen to every one, but teach him also to filter all that he hears on a screen of truth and take only the good that comes through.
Teach him to sell his talents and brains to the highest bidder but never to put a price tag on his heart and soul. Let him have the courage to be impatient, let him have the patient to be brave. Teach him to have sublime faith in himself, because then he will always have sublime faith in mankind, in God.
This is the order, teacher but see what best you can do. He is such a nice little boy and he is my son."

Students! Say "No" to cultism

As students go back to school after the Yuletide, I guess it's the right time to discuss one of the societal ills that need to be urgently tackled and possibly eliminated - cultism.
Without much ado, cult practices are usually secretive, unconventional and extremely harsh, mostly regarded as false and unwholesome due to the bad influence they have on their followers and the society at large.
Unfortunately, this practice which was common mostly in the tertiary institutions back then has infiltrated the secondary and primary schools and among teenagers.

Dear parents, guardians, school and religious authorities, government at all levels and the general public, the future of our children and the society is bleak if nothing urgent is done to end this calamitous practice as soon as possible. Rather than pursuing shadows caring only about "irrelevant" things, let us revisit proper upbringing of our children and wards for a better and more decent posterity.
And for the scholars, please focus on the "right" studies which you are in school to acquire. Friends and schoolmates will present you with all manner of adventurous opportunities but please remember there is time for everything under the sun. This time at the moment is for acquiring appropriate studies. Always discern the offerings being made to you and keep your teachers and parents or guardians abreast with every seemingly "weird" happenings around you. Contact the security authorities if possible.

You can agree with me that our beautiful world deserves much more security than we currently have it.

And please share this piece via any available media to rid our society of vile.

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Youths! Say "NO" to electoral malpractices - 2

Less than 72 hours to the Presidential and National Assembly elections in Nigeria.

Remember, as a concerned and patriotic citizen:

- Do not get involved in any form of electioneering violence
- Only do the needful by casting your vote and have your peace
- Do not be a puppet in the hands of desperate politicians
- Make Nigeria a TRUE DEMOCRATIC NATION


The countdown is still on - Naija 2019 Elections - Remember to stick by the rules:

- No electoral thuggery
- No vote buying or selling
- No wielding of harmful objects
- No form of violence
- Just cast your vote and be a concerned citizen




The time is here again when the youths are 'remembered' by politicians. Yes, remembered only every four years - used and abandoned on each occasion. But it still baffles me that these youths haven't learned any lessons so far.

In history, no democracy plagued with political thuggery and violence ever thrived and I expect our youths to ask themselves some crucial questions.

Are they really for democracy or against it?
Is this how they want to end up with their lives? Used and dumped during every electioneering season while their sponsors sit and live large - carting away selfishly and greedily every good thing meant for the entire constituency? 
Have the youths ever thought about those like them who in the past had either been maimed or lost their lives in such unwholesome and foolhardy practices?
Have they forgotten that life has no duplicate?

In this era when throwing caution to the winds seem to have become a commonplace - that people have sold their consciences to the devil and are prepared to swap their birthrights for a plate of porridge - one begins to wonder what has happened to our sense of morality and the golden rule.

It's high time we let the sponsors of such electoral malpractices especially thuggery and other related violence understand that they ought to be fair during elections while exhibiting spirit of gamesmanship. Positions in a democratic setting isn't a do or die affair but are uninterruptedly decided by the people.If we truly believe in the maxim that says that the voice of the people is the voice of God, then it behoves on all stakeholders who uphold democracy to allow the people to actually "speak out" unrestrained through their votes. It'll be false to claim victory was from God when in truth it wasn't.

Youths, let us say "NO" to any attempt by any politician irrespective of status to coax us into any undemocratic acts which have been the bane of our woes as a people for so many years now.
It's time to reject those alluring offers (which don't last anyway - they only rob you to pay you). They take so much from you and offer you next to nothing to risk your life and keep the nation in an indefinite horrible state. Turn them down! Let it be the sacrifice you make for a better democracy.

We must survive the scourge of bad politicking.

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Work out your success this year!

Though the timing may look belated, the REAL message that welcomes friends and fans in a new year cannot be stale and the message is nothing other than to be industrious, proactive, positive, and above all, patient for the efforts to materialize just as the farmer patiently waits for the harvest time when all necessary efforts had been made.
In this life, there's no room for laziness. NO! It isn't allowed! But as long as one in sincerity and truth makes some legitimate and commendable efforts to survive, it shall surely pay off. No efforts are wasted. In a worst case scenario, lessons are learned to prepare one for future fruitful innovations or opportunities.

So then, please don't join the lazy ones who go about waylaying people for kidnap or searching for ladies underwears for money rituals. Bro and sis, there's no shortcuts to making money and nemesis will surely meet the perpetrators of such evils. They can't escape it. That's the law of life - you reap what you sow.

So, stand up for what is right. It isn't difficult to determine what's right if you can reactivate your conscience and listen to it.

So welcome once again to 2019 and be convinced that with genuine efforts, the sky is your starting point.

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